About Us
We built BLND3D because no one built it for us.
We're not relationship coaches who picked blended families as a niche. We're a blended couple who went looking for this kind of help, couldn't find it, and built it ourselves. Five kids, three households, and everything we teach was lived in our home before it was ever taught in yours.
How it started
We did the thing everyone warns you about.
We met on the job, both of us in the police. Brit was the senior officer. Josh was the junior. Then we blended fast. Two households became one inside six months.
Brit's two girls and Josh's two boys, all under five. A daughter of our own arrived right in the middle of it. Five kids across three households, and no real idea what we were doing.
We paid for that speed early. There was no map. The advice out there was either generic relationship fluff or step-parenting theory written by people who'd never lived a week of it. So we worked it out the hard way, in real time, with five kids watching. What we learned in that mess became the framework we teach.
What we believe
The couple comes first.
Most blended family advice starts with the kids. We believe something different.
The couple comes first. Not because the kids matter less. Because they matter so much.
Kids don't need two adults quietly burning out to keep the peace. They need a home led by two people who are connected, aligned, and moving in the same direction. When the couple gets stronger, everything downstream gets steadier. The rules. The routines. The way conflict gets handled. The way the kids feel walking in the door.
Everything we teach begins there. Your relationship isn't competing with your kids. It's the foundation they're standing on.
Why we do this
So the next couple doesn't do it alone.
Policing showed us what neglect does to a relationship. We watched it wear good people down, and we came close to letting it happen to us.
Blending a family is one of the hardest things two people can take on, and almost everyone doing it is doing it alone. That's the part we can't accept. We do this so the next couple doesn't have to work it out the way we did: in real time, with five kids watching.
Our Mission
To give blended families unfiltered, honest support and tools that actually work, so they can build stronger relationships and clearer boundaries without losing themselves in the process.
Our Core Values
How we show up.
The couple comes first is our foundation, not a value. These are the behaviours we hold ourselves to while we help you build on it.
Honesty
We say the hard things. Truth with heart, even when it is uncomfortable.
Lived experience
We have walked the mess, not just read about it. Nothing we teach is theory.
Presence
We show up steady, especially when it is hard.
Consistency
We keep showing up, even when it is inconvenient.
Every blended family starts somewhere.
Whether you're ready to work on your relationship together or you're carrying the weight on your own, we'll help you find the right next step.
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We're Brit and Josh. Five kids, three households, and a marriage that had to come first to survive it. We help blended couples and solo partners build the home they set out to create, with what actually worked in ours. Blended doesn't mean broken.
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